I’m stuck with a bit of dilemma right now, and it has to do with these babies:
(source: Wedding Paper Divas)
(source: Wedding Paper Divas)
I’ve been agonizing over Save the Date styles and colors, even ordering samples of the 2 above (along with some invites) from WeddingPaperDivas.com. Then it occurred to me – do we even need Save the Dates?
Our wedding isn’t in a faraway land, the majority of our guests are local or already know about our plans, and we’re not going to be getting married close to a holiday. All those very good reasons for saving STDs (make your own joke this time, I’m pooped) don’t apply to us.
I also read something that made me stop and think: I’ll have to send an invitation to everyone that gets a Save the Date. I know, that sounds obvious but stay with me here. In my excitement, I’ll send out my STDs about 6 months before the wedding. Maybe some of those people will leave our office, or we’ll have a fight, or just grow apart… but they still expect an invitation to the wedding (except for the fighting. No fangz allowed at my wedding). More importantly, what if we need to slash our budget as we get closer to the big day? Of course, we don’t expect to, in fact I’m looking for ways to trim or save up extra money so we can include MORE of the people we want, since we do have to limit ourselves. We still have to prepare for the possibility of it up until we’re ready to send the actual invites. It’s much easier to cut the guest list when they haven’t already been ‘pre-invited’.
The pros to this debate are… um, I want purty papers? Ok, so there aren’t a lot. I could save a couple hundred bucks for something else in our wedding if I pass on Save the Dates. We probably will skip this, but it vexes me.
Did you have Save the Dates at your wedding? Why or why not?
If most of the people you want to invite live locally, you may not need the Save the Date cards. If you’re trying to adjust your budget to accommodate more people, it sounds like you haven’t totally made up your mind as to how many people you want to invite. So, save the money and don’t send out the Save the Dates. Why stress yourself out over something that isn’t totally necessary?
THANK YOU! I got a flurry of “zomg you have to have them!” replies on facebook and I started to feel sad and unsure, but you and B-maid L have confirmed my feelings!
I agree, we’re doing STD cards but we have an interesting situation. Our wedding is hours away from ALL our guests and in prime just-out-of-school time, and a lot of our guests have kids and will need some notice to make the arrangements.
Plus I really wanted STDs!
Though, in hindsight, i would have just done an e-card and saved the money.
I think you’re the perfect candidate for STD cards. It’s the kind of situation where you need more advanced notice. I knew someone who’s fiance’s family was mostly from Egypt, so they were another really good case for it.
I really want them too, but I think my practical side is going to win out this time.
I think people get in that mindset of, “But EVERYONE does that, you have to, too!” when it comes to weddings. But, it’s your wedding–don’t listen to other people (except for your bridesmaides and moh *ahem*, oh, and the groom) do what you think is right. I’ll be right behind you, kicking ass.
Hey, look at that, I spelled bridesmaids wrong. I hate spelling.